Do you know if its hpv +?

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I’m sorry no one else has replied to you as it is a lonely time.
My husband 54 was diagnosed with stage 4 N2b in February and underwent a mandibulectomy. No smoking, drinking and a very fit man.
Unfortunately he denied all other treatment after surgery and got himself removed from the hospital check up list so I understand how difficult this is, the not knowing, the waiting, the hurt and the grief.
I don’t have any magic answers I’m sorry, but hang on to the special moments.
It is difficult to be on the other side seeing the changes that occur to both our spouses and to our own lives, life just isn’t the same and it is an adjustment I’m still not used to.
I pray that your wife will make it. Just remember to take care of yourself too