Hi Michelle,
and welcome to the forum. It is a gift to us to be able to help you in any way we can. Most of have had similar issues, pain, narcotics meds, fatigue, weight loss, nausea, etc. Not to mention misdiagnosis. Chemo and radiation only are a quite common treatment of choice for base of tongue cancers. Radiation is no walk in the park but many here have survived and gone on to normal, productive and somewhat enriched lives as a result of the experience.

This is the scariest time.

It is not shameful to ask for some meds for yourself to cope with the anxiety. Sometimes the local cancer society can provide people to talk with you one on one. Ask the hospital social worker as well about support groups and financial help. Since this is a multinational group there bis usually always someone up late to answer questions for you.

We do recommend strongly that you are seeking treatment at a comprehensive cancer center. There are links to the NCI and NCCN comprehensive cancer centers in the resources section here.