At 23 years old, I did not know for sure what I could endure, and I spent part of the period right before that age in a place where people were dying all around me, where fear, pain, and suffering were happening on a daily basis to hundreds. I do not think that any of them who survived that experience look back at that period now, and wish that they had followed their gut instinct to give up. Though may of us were scared enough to want to quit, injured enough to believe that life with out limbs, or horrific physical and emotional scaring would not be a life not worth living. Years of productive lives later, even if living with physical compromises, have proven to them that staying the course, fighting on in spite of the pain, disfigurements, issues related to quality of life, were all worth it, and they are stronger individuals now for having faced that enormous emotional challenge and over coming it. She is reacting to and experiencing fear. Fear of the disease, fear of death, fear of the treatment, fear of the compromised life that may be ahead of her, fear of the unknown. The best support she could get right now would be someone listening to that fear, letting her express it, and being supportive of a position that would help her see a way through it. I do not know that these doctors have made serious mistakes, and what she is dealing with may be the results of the best decisions that could be made at the time given the information and testing that was available to them. The treatment of cancer is part art and part science. It is certainly not an exact science at that, and even the best of doctors are only working within the confines of our very limited knowledge of cancer. She needs to talk this through with a professional psycho-oncologist. For as supportive of her as you are, she may need more from someone that can talk her through the issues and keep it in the realm of that which she can comprehend and deal with. Hope comes from within, but sometimes that hope has to be teased out of the jungle of other issues and fears by someone who knows how to help someone find it. There are people who only do this one type of therapy every day with those suffering from cancer. You need to find such a person for her.

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