So sorry to hear that, Hellion. Hope Wednesday's visit gives you a clearer picture of the options. Having just been through a six week wait for FNA/ultrasound which turned out okay I know how horrible the wait is. I've had the wait before too on several occasions. This time I had a period of extreme sadness then remembered all the info I'd got about meditation etc from the cancer psychologist. I wrote a diary and Googled "how to wait for cancer results", finding a couple of strategies which helped.

Talking to a psychologist or counsellor might help a lot.

My love to you and your wife.

1996, ovarian cancer surgery + cisplatin and taxol.
September, 2007, SCC of left lateral tongue. Excision.
October, 2009 recurrence in scar tissue, T1NOMO. Free flap surgery from left wrist - neck dissection. 63 year old New Zealander. No chemo, no RT.
February, 2014. New primary in left buccal mucosa. Marginal mandibulectomy, neck dissection, right arm free forearm flap. T1N0M0 but third occurrence and some areas of concern: RT started 8 April and finished 19 May.