#96776 06-05-2009 06:36 PM | Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 17 Member | OP Member Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 17 | Hi everyone, I have been reading forums here now for about a week and I finally decided to join. I just want to say, I think everyone here is so wonderful. As much as many of you have gone through and to be so supportive of others is amazing. So here is my story, About 4 years ago my mom was diagnosed with oral cancer in the form of a small tumor under her tongue, caught by her dentist. She had surgery and no rad or chemo. She is very faithful on going to all her 6 month screenings as well as dental screenings. About a month ago she was having problems eating and her bottom jaw hurt to bite down. She went to her dentist and he first thought it may have been an abcess, but told her because of her history, even though she's been clear, she should have it checked out. It turns out that they found the monster is back and it has invaded her jaw bone and lymph nodes in her neck. On Tuesday she went to Boston (Dana Farber)where her doc is and where she was the firt time. Every day this week we got a little more news. After CT, PET, and MRI it has been found that it has also spread to her shoulders and down her spine, as well as a small spot on her lung. I don't know all the details as far as all the terms that many of you are familiar with but I do know that it is stage IV and they were going to do surgery on her jaw and replace with bone from her leg and a neck disection, but now that they have found out how far it has spread, they cancelled all surgeries and are going staight to rad and chemo to start ASAP. I also worry because my mom is already a very fragile person as she injured her spine in a work accident and has been on disbility scine 1991. I have yet to get more details about the type of chemo and rad, as every time I try to talk to her or my dad they are crying too much to talk about it. She is 53 and the doc told her yesterday that if all goes well, she could have up to 2 years. Oh, she also is still recovering from a surgery she had on her neck on March 4th unrelated to this. I just don't understand how she could have not only got the clear to have her surgery 2 months ago, and be clear at all her screenings, then all of the sudden she has stage IV that has spread so much. The doc she sees is rated top of the line and he did say it was very aggresive and spreading quickly, but I don't know if someone missed something along the lines or it really can spread that quickly. Thank everyone for letting me tell my story and since I have been reading I have been saying prayers for all here that need as well.
Rachael- daughter 53 year old mom at stage IV oral in jaw bone and has mestasized though lymph nodes, shoulders and spine..... more details to come. mom now 55 and has metastized to chest and liver, has stopped all treatments and meds 7/12/11
**let good prevail over evil**
| | | | Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,004 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,004 | Hi Rachael,
My heart goes to you. I'm so sorry for what you, your mother, and family are going through. It sounds like your mom has a long road ahead of her. You have found a wonderful site with the best people. As a patient, all I can say, is just be there for your mom. She will need the support of some strong people.
Good luck to you and feel free to ask as many questions as you want. There are plenty of people who can answer them.
xoxo
Suzanne *********** T1 SCC on right side of tongue Age 31...27 when diagnosed 4 partial glossectomies No chemo or radiation Biopsy on 2/2/10-Clear Surgery needed again...no later than April 2011 Loving life and just became a mother on 11/25/10 It's not what we CAN'T do..it's what we CAN do:)
| | | | Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 17 Member | OP Member Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 17 | Thank you Suzanne. I think it's great to have a place to come to like this, for everyone to support each other. Hopefully I can get some more details soon. I know that she will also be going back to Boston ( which is about 3 hours from us) for some experimental trials that her and her doctor discussed this week, but I'm not sure when. I think he wants to see how she responds to the rads and chemo first.
Thanks again, and I wish you well also
Rachael- daughter 53 year old mom at stage IV oral in jaw bone and has mestasized though lymph nodes, shoulders and spine..... more details to come. mom now 55 and has metastized to chest and liver, has stopped all treatments and meds 7/12/11
**let good prevail over evil**
| | | | Joined: May 2008 Posts: 551 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: May 2008 Posts: 551 | Hi Rachael,
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom, what a blow that must be. But I know the head & neck docs at Dana-Farber are as good as anyone out there and she will be well cared for, to be sure. I hope you'll find this site as helpful as I did as you navigate through the next few months.
- Margaret
Stage IV SCC lt lateral tongue, surgery 5/19/08 (partial gloss/upper neck dissection left side/radial free flap reconstruction) IMRT w/weekly Cisplatin & Erbitux 6/30/08, PEG 1 6/12/08 - out 7/14 (in abdominal wall, not stomach), PEG 2 7/23/08 - out 11/20/08, Tx done 8/18/08 Second SCC tumor, Stage 1, rt mobile tongue, removed 10/18/2016, right neck dissection 12/9/2016 Third SCC tumor, diagnosed, 4/19/2108, rt submandibular mass, HPV-, IMRT w/ weekly Cisplatin, 5/9 - 6/25/2018, PEG 3 5/31/2018
| | | | Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | Platinum Member (300+ posts) Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 | Hi Rachael. I'm so, so sorry about your mom. Unfortunately I don't have very many words of wisdom except for just be there for your mom as much as you can. Make sure she has someone going with her to ALL her appointments. I know with my husband I go to all his appointments and sometimes I will discuss something with him that the doctor said and he doesn't even remember the doctor talking about it. Being a "caregiver" is very emotionally draining. You have found a great place for information and support. Hugs, Wanda
Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009) 1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+) 2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT 4-15-09 - treatment completed 8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear 4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction 10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives) 11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2
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Welcome to OCF. Its going to be a very valuable place for you to get support. Im so sorry to hear about your mother. Wishing you both the best. ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive | | | | Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 | I am so sorry about your mom. This is a great place of support. Just be there as much as you can for your mom. I know it is a tough time of uncertainty right now.
Angelia 31 at Dx. DX: 4/30/09, 10/21/09 SCC on floor of mouth, T1NOMO, T2N1M0 TX: 39 IMRT, 8 cisplatin 11/30/09 PET/CT: 11/03/09: Lymph node involvement PEG/PORT: 11/09 TX end: 02/01/10 PET Scan: 04/05/10 clear PEG Out: 06/21/10 Biopsy: 12/23/10: fibrosis HBO: 01/04/11 - ORN Baby girl born 11-30-12
| | | | Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 225 "OCF across the pond" Gold Member (200+ posts) | "OCF across the pond" Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 225 | [quote=Rachael]I just don't understand how she could have not only got the clear to have her surgery 2 months ago, and be clear at all her screenings, then all of the sudden she has stage IV that has spread so much.[/quote] Hi Rachael, Sorry to hear about your Mum, I hope whatever they do will help. As for your remark, Martin had neck surgery (not cancer related, worn spine cartilage) on 11th June 2007, on February 2008 he had a swollen neck galnd which thurned out to be cancerous. We asked our consultant why they didn't see anything. The simple answer was "because they weren't looking for it, they were looking at bone matter and not soft tissue". Maybe that's what happened to your Mum. I wish you 2 all the best. Cecilia
Last edited by Cecilia; 06-06-2009 11:46 AM.
Girlfriend to Martin 49 years old at diagnosis Diagnosed with SCC unknown primary June 2008. Cancer found in single node Stage N2A (3 to 6cm). Tonsilectomy 16th june, Radical modified neck dissection left side 30th june. 30 TX radiotherapy ended 9th October First comparative study scan came back clear
| | | | Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,004 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,004 | Rachael,
I forgot to mention this to you yesterday. You may want to tell your mom to check out this site too. Talking to people who are going through the same thing may help her.
Suzanne *********** T1 SCC on right side of tongue Age 31...27 when diagnosed 4 partial glossectomies No chemo or radiation Biopsy on 2/2/10-Clear Surgery needed again...no later than April 2011 Loving life and just became a mother on 11/25/10 It's not what we CAN'T do..it's what we CAN do:)
| | | | Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: May 2009 Posts: 1,412 | Rachael, I agree with Suzanne. Talking to people who have gone through the same thing or are going through the same thing has helped me cope a lot better than I would have other wise. Your mom may benefit from this site. Good luck with it all.
Angelia 31 at Dx. DX: 4/30/09, 10/21/09 SCC on floor of mouth, T1NOMO, T2N1M0 TX: 39 IMRT, 8 cisplatin 11/30/09 PET/CT: 11/03/09: Lymph node involvement PEG/PORT: 11/09 TX end: 02/01/10 PET Scan: 04/05/10 clear PEG Out: 06/21/10 Biopsy: 12/23/10: fibrosis HBO: 01/04/11 - ORN Baby girl born 11-30-12
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