I don't want to be that dark cloud but just remember that the 2 to 3 weeks FOLLOWING the end of radiation are usually the worse weeks of all. I only say this so if it happens you can be prepared for it AND you can "comfort" him by telling him all is normal.

I have said all along that the mental aspect of this cancer and treatment, etc is at least 50% of the battle and in my opinion regardless of how tough it gets, it's comforting to know that everybody else had the same tough time and the vast majority of us are here to bitch about it.

Actually the entire month after all my treatments was the worse, as I had not found OCF and did not realize just how BAD even though the burning and poisoning stop. Yeah the doctors' mentioned it, but did not stress it enough.
So be prepared and not discouraged when it happens. However, let me add that you cannot imagine how GOOD it can get a year later. Hang in there and read some survivor posts especially the anniversaries. You both have reached an important milestone, sort of like the 20 mile mark in the marathon, where everything hurts but you can finish. ( I used to laugh when my medical team would use marathon analogies as they had never even run one, while I had done four)

Charm and David,

Thank you for reminding me the road ahead is still long and there are many turns still ahead. ~grin~ We are prepared. Well, as best we can be. You can only take one day at a time and one week at a time. And altho we had some hypersensitivity issuses to chemo and meds this week it was still a good week! We are so happy for today and will remain optimistic no matter how hard it becomes because I too believe that your determination and power of positive thinking has a lot to do with recovery and overall well being. We will not let some insidious disease take control of our lives or our outlook of all that is beatiful in this world. even the littlest victory is worth celebrating.
I too know that after tx there are still gonna be an unmeasureable span time yet to get thru before he really starts to feel as tho he is truely recovering form all the "poison" they put into his system. I only just reminded my daughter ( who plans to visit one week after end of tx) that it is unclear what to expect. I had to put on the pessimistic hat ( which is not normally my charecter) and advise her she may be shocked or even very upset to see her father who is usually so strong and viral looking pretty weak and fraile. It was hard thing to convey to her but she must be aware that no matter how well he is doing diagnostic wise he most likely won't look like it. She hasn't seen her father since after his surgery in July and a lot has transpired since then. I can only hope that she is ready for this.But she is a storng young woman and I'll be there for her if she needs to cry it out some.
Time to run. Tx 22 awaits. ~Ija~

I will never forget the day that my son came to see me when I was one week post Tx. I was really sick and weak and he hadn't seen me in a month. I didn't think I LOOKED that bad but as soon as he saw me he teared up and that really hit me hard. My point is, tell her not to show her emotions as that can't help him one bit.