#77202 07-19-2008 01:03 PM | Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 "OCF across the pond" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | OP  "OCF across the pond" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | My dear friends
i am writing this message to ask you all to pray for the safe return of Robins brother Paul
Paul has never really got over losing Robin almost exactly one year ago.As a result his marriage has broken up and he has become increasingly depressed.On Thursday he tried to hang hinself,but lost his nerve.Today he left his home between3.30 am and 6.30 am.He left his car ,his keys,his wallet and his phone and he hasn't been seen since.It is now 9.30 pm and the police and army helicopters have been searching for him over the extensive woods and common land that surroung the village.They visited his wife half an hour ago to say they are gravely concerned.
Please please please pray for his safe return.This is just too much to bear.
liz
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 2,019 | Oh my, Liz, that is so sad. I am sending out all my best wishes that they find him and he is at least physically OK. Please let us know what happens.
Nelie
SCC(T2N0M0) part.glossectomy & neck dissect 2/9/05 & 2/25/05.33 IMRT(66 Gy),2 Cisplatin ended 06/03/05.Stage I breast cancer treated 2/05-11/05.Surgery to remove esophageal stricture 07/06, still having dilatations to keep esophagus open.Dysphagia. "When you're going through hell, keep going"
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Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 794 | Liz, what a very sad situation. I pray that they find him in some out-of-the-way place where he went to think....What a terrible toll this horrible disease takes on ALL who are connected with it, not just those who are physical victims of it.
I know that Paul is very special to you, and I know how your heart must be aching with worry for him.
My prayers will be going out for your whole family, and for Paul that he may be found and may find a way to climb out of his terrible grief.
XOX
Colleen--T-2N0M0 SCC dx'd 12/28/05...Hemi-maxillectomy, partial palatectomy, neck dissection 1/4/06....clear margins, neg. nodes....no radiation, no chemo....Cancer-free at 4 years!
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Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 147 | Oh Liz - I just sent you a PM and then read this...If there is anything I can do please, please let me know. I will be praying for him AND for you and his family. Please keep us posted and let us know. We are all sending prayers and angels your way.
Hugs,
Paula
Caregiver to Husband 50 yrs.young-non smoker/non-drinker; Stage IV - all treatments stopped August 2009
Lost the battle November 23, 2010
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Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 681 | Liz,
My prayers are with you and the family. May we hear good news soon.
Malka
SCC stage II Partial mandibulectomy w. neck dissection- July 2005. Renal cancer w. partial nephrectomy-Jan 2004. Breast cancer discovered in routine mammogram. Successful lumpectomy, sentinal nodes clear, RT only-2008 Reconstruction of mandible w fibula free flap-Jan 09. TORS removal of begnin pappiloma from esophagus-2010. Masectomy,rt breast 2013.
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its 3.30 in the morning and i still haven't heard anything.The police suspended the air search until 9pm this evening because so many people walk thier dogs on the common that their thermal imaging cameras were picking up too many heat sources,so they decided it would be better to wait until dusk when most people are back home.robins sister in Portugal is distraught .Paul is her twin,and has just been out to stay with her for 10 days.She tried to persuade him to stay,but he had to get back to work,and was desperate to try and resolve things with his wife.
Last weekend i was down in Hampshire for the weekend.I spent two hours with Paul,and was shocked at his physical and mental state.
He has lost so much weight and was in a constant state of agitation.When i left him,the last words i said to him were"what are you going to do now?" he replied "going to find the nearest tree".I grabbed hold of him and really told him his fortune!! I never thought for one minute that he might really do just that. He text me the next day to say how much he wished i lived nearer as he would come and stay with me.He felt so alone and thought i was the only person who understood how he feels.why didn't he just get in his car and come too me?
This waiting is just like last year waiting for robins scan results.I just thank god that their mother has no idea what is going on.She was admitted to a care facility last July with alzheimers.she doesn't even know Rob is gone even though Paul has told her half a dozen times.
I am sorry to ramble ,but my head is all over the place.
Last edited by Cookey; 07-19-2008 08:18 PM.
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | Cookey,
I hope you hear from Paul soon. I was thinking of you and your family as I watched the Mass given by the Pope in Sydney this morning for World Youth Day.
Love
Gabriele
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 221 | Liz,
I'm hoping that you will get some news soon. I'll keep your family in my prayers.
Joy
CG to Father, 75 yo with SCC of the mouth; upper maxillectomy and neck diss. performed on 5/23/07. Father also suffered heart attack during surgery and now has CHF. RT complete on 8/28/07. Cancer back 11/27/07. RT and Chemo to start on 12/17. Cancer back 6/17/08. Finally at rest 08/08/08.
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Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 24 | liz,
i'm am praying for his safety, and for your whole family.
emma
wife to Del,dx.4/07 BOT SCC t3n3m0 3rounds chemo (5fu,cisplat,taxotere,erbitux)35 IMRT tx.with weekly erbitux.finished 9/07. 12/07 biopsies +,surgery not an option.returned to palliative chemo 2/08. 6 tx.of cisplatin/taxotere,methotrexate 8 tx. He died Aug 20,2008, but lives always in my heart.
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