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Joined: May 2006 Posts: 16 | My mother passed away last march and theres not a day that goes by that something doesn't takes place that reminds me of her.I feel thats the gift she left me because of all the wonderfull times we had together. What everyone has said before me is all so true.She would want you to stay strong and make her proud. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
TIMOTHY C, AXEL
DIAG.3/9/2005 SCC STAGE 3 LEFT TONCIL WITH METZ. TO LYMPHNODES IRMT X 40, CISPLATIN ONCE A WK.X 8, LEFT NECK DISECTION 7/19/2005 CANCER FREE EVER SINCE.NON SMOKER, MODERATE DRINKER,RUNNER
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Joined: May 2006 Posts: 69 | thanks for the words of support,
its true, a lot of things in my day, in my personality, actions remind me of my mom .. but theres a lot that i wish she was still around for ..
its weird losing a parent, i feel a lot of things, like all over the map, reading the posts, i know im not alone in feeling the things i feel.. but i just dont feel right..
thanks all
H
the world brought me to my knees...
Update: Feb 10/08: Mom passed away on Jan 31,08 - infection (unknown) in her lungs with her weakened immune system resulted in cardiac arrest - T2NO SCC of tongue surgery 6/30/06, SCC left neck and lungs detected Sept 07, 7 weeks rad/3 rounds chemo had no effect.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | It's going to take quite a few months to heal a little better , I am sure of this after going thru it with both of my parents. My dads death was very sudden and unexpected. it was tough on everybody
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 681 | H, The grief will change over time. The shock of the first few days has given way and you are now beginning to return to daily life with it's routines. Loosing some one we love is as physically real as loosing an arm and is as hurtful as it is in our heart and soul. Like a physical wound there will be stages of healing but the loss will always be there. You will slowly adapt to life without your mother because this lessening of emotional and physical pain is essential to our lives. No one can live with the intensity of the early grief. There will always be flareups and even forgetting that the person isn't there. I remember bumping into someone I hadn't seen in about 20 years and thinking that I would have to call my Mom when I got home to tell her. Then I realized that Mom had been gone from this Earth for 12 years. In an earlier post you said that you hope to someday make a difference and help others. You are honoring your mother by the support you have begun to give to others. This is as important as any financial donation, research protect, fundraiser.
SCC stage II Partial mandibulectomy w. neck dissection- July 2005. Renal cancer w. partial nephrectomy-Jan 2004. Breast cancer discovered in routine mammogram. Successful lumpectomy, sentinal nodes clear, RT only-2008 Reconstruction of mandible w fibula free flap-Jan 09. TORS removal of begnin pappiloma from esophagus-2010. Masectomy,rt breast 2013.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | I was saddened to read your post. I am very sorry for your loss. Try to remember the good times before she was sick. You were a great son to your mother.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 718 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 718 | My deepest condolences to you. She must have been an amazing woman as she surely raised an amazing son.
Margaret
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C/G: Husband, 48 (at time of dx)
Dx 5/18/07 SCC, BOT, lymph node involvement. T1N2BM0. (Stage 4a, G2/3)
Tx 6/18 - 8/3/07, IMRT x 33 Cisplatin x3 (stopped after 1st dose due to hearing issues). Weekly Erbitux started 6/27/07 completed 8/6/07.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 214 | So sorry you lost your mom. I recently lost my dad, and it just feels so..weird. We can only take comfort knowing our loved ones are at peace
Left tonsil SCC, HPV+. T2N0M0. Tonsillectomy 3-07, bilateral radiation, cisplatin 3x, Tx completed 6-06. Clear PET 4-01-2008.
Thyroidectomy 5-9-08, resulting in permanent surgically-induced hypoparathyroidism and adrenal problems. Bummer.
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