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Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 681 | Lisa,
I add my tears to the bucket being filled for you.
It took great courage and love to carry you through this ordeal and now to open up to strangers so quickly. When we lose someone it is truly a physical loss as much as that of a limb of our body. Your pain is very fresh now and will slowly ease over time. Do not let anyone give you a schedule nor tell you that there will be closure. Take courage from the voices here as there is so much experience with coping with pain and loss and turning adversity into something positive.
With deepest sympathy,
Malka
SCC stage II Partial mandibulectomy w. neck dissection- July 2005. Renal cancer w. partial nephrectomy-Jan 2004. Breast cancer discovered in routine mammogram. Successful lumpectomy, sentinal nodes clear, RT only-2008 Reconstruction of mandible w fibula free flap-Jan 09. TORS removal of begnin pappiloma from esophagus-2010. Masectomy,rt breast 2013.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Lisa, I don't know why but i have read your post a few times. Each time I tear up just like David did. It must be that we are family here and have many feelings for you in this time of need. You are going to stay in my prayers.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Apr 2005 Posts: 2,676 | Hi, Lisa, Having gotten through what should have been John's 65th birthday last August, Thanksgiving, our 15th wedding anniversary Nov. 29th, Christmas, New Years and soon to be the 1st anniversary of his passing, I can only tell you that you get through losing someone you love by sheer determination and gritting your teeth. Everyone is telling me the "1st year is the hardest"-well, we'll see. I am fortunate to have grandkids, good friends and work to keep me propped up. I hope that you find what you need to prop you up! You have to find meaningful ways to fill the void until that void transforms into a beautiful memory in your life. Amy in the Ozarks
CGtoJohn:SCC Flr of Mouth.Dx 3\05. Surg.4\05.T3NOMO.IMRTx30. Recur Dx 1\06.Surg 2\06. Chemo: 4 Cycles of Carbo\Taxol:on Erbitux for 7 mo. Lost our battle 2-23-07- But not the will to fight this disease
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Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | I'm so sorry for your loss, Lisa - I wish I had the words to comfort you and hold you until the sorrow and the pain lessens. Just know that you do have "family" here so please come whenever you can and there will always be someone to listen and care deeply.
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
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Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 794 | Lisa,
Sending love and prayers your way.
Donna
Donna
CG to Mom, dx 4/25/07 with tongue cancer,T3N0,tx began 7/6/07, 31 tx's of IMRT, 8 cycles of Erbitux. Brachytherapy, surgery, left neck dissection and temp trach placed all on 9/17/07, trach removed 10/17/07. ORN of jaw, late effect of radiation symptoms. **lost my beautiful mother on 5/5/11.
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Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 93 | Lisa,
Wish there was a way to ease the pain.
Just know this is a place that will always be here for you, cry with you,try to hold your hand.
Maggie
Maggie
caregiver to husband
right tonsil stage 3
35 IMRT TX completed 1/5/2007
PET Scan clear 3/07
biopsy 9/07 clear
1st yr PET scan 12/18/07 clear
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | We lost ours too lisa.If i can help e-mail me and tell me what i can do
love liz
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 21 | Lisa,
I read your January post and I wonder how you are doing? Sorry to hear about your husband. You are in my prayers.
D'Arcy
caregiver to father, stage IV SCC with lesion on base of tongue and mets to right lymph nodes. Current chemotherapy taxol, carboplatin and erbitux. Will start radiation 4/1/08 7 wks, 35 treatments with questionable radiacal neck at end of radiation.
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