Dear Karen,
All I can say is that there is no "recipe" to fix or heal a breaking heart...everybody goes through the grief process differently. Some people shut down, others try to quickly "get back to normal", and still others just try to stay adrift because they have others depending on them, but can't seem to manage to focus because they're hurting so badly. I'm such a believer in the soul living forever & our body merely being a shell---it doesn't define who we are. Your mother's spirit, although it can't be physically touched, is all around you. It's in the wind & the trees & in the tears shed. Remembering her and holding on to all the good she brought you and your family will surely bring peace to your soul. My thoughts are with you and yours,
becca

Karen,
At times like this there are no words that will help, it takes time. I lost my dad suddenly 7 yrs ago, I felt I would never be the same but I survived I still miss him so much.

I read this poem the other day & I loved it! I hope this helps.

My prayers are with you and I'm so sorry for your loss. Tina

Christmas In Heaven

I see the countless Christmas trees
around the world below
With tiny lights, like Heaven's stars,
reflecting on the snow

The sight is so spectacular,
please wipe away the tear
For I am spending Christmas with
Jesus Christ this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs
that people hold so dear
But the sounds of music can't compare
with the Christmas choir up here.

I have no words to tell you,
the joy their voices bring,
For it is beyond description,
to hear the angels sing.

I know how much you miss me,
I see the pain inside your heart.
But I am not so far away,
We really aren't apart.

So be happy for me, dear ones,
You know I hold you dear.
And be glad I'm spending Christmas
with Jesus Christ this year.

I sent you each a special gift,
from my heavenly home above.
I sent you each a memory
of my undying love.

After all, love is a gift more precious
than pure gold.
It was always most important
in the stories Jesus told.

Please love and keep each other,
as my Father said to do.
For I can't count the blessing or love
He has for each of you.

So have a Merry Christmas and
wipe away that tear.
Remember, I am spending Christmas with
Jesus Christ this year.

How do I even begin to say thank you, for all your kind words and support. It means sooo much. I do have family, I actually live next to my parents, They were married for 40 years. I have a Husband and a 5 year old little girl. I was my moms main caregiver, and spent most of my time crushing pills and feeding her and just spending time with her. We wanted so badly to beat this, I spent so much time reading here, that when we went to the doctors i got asked several times if I was a nurse. At times I do feel like I was more informed then they were. I have to believe God took her from me for a reason, she wasnt getting better and she was suffering. Now I am just looking for answers on what exactly happened, In time I hope to have thase answers. Thanks again to all, Tinaelise thank you for that poem, I hope its ok to reprint.

I loved that poem, thanks so much for sharing it!! God Bless, Carol

Karen,
I'm so sorry that you lost your mom. I hope that you find comfort in the loving memories that you have of her. I know what you're going through is difficult, and I wish you much peace.
Didier