#4109 10-22-2004 03:30 PM | Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 188 Likes: 1 Senior Member (100+ posts) | OP  Senior Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 188 Likes: 1 | Thanks again all. you've given me some excellent ideas on what to ask the doc on Monday.
As for driving myself crazy, I've probably been more than half-way there for a long time. Seriously though, I'm pretty good with it right now, but the one I worry about is my wife of 34 years. This entire journey has really been rough on her. She's already on anti-depressants, and this really put her out on the ledge. I think I've talked her back, but I worry about her.
I sometimes think it's easier to be the patient than it is to be the caregiver in these situations. I knew what I had to do, but my family felt so helpless. They just want to do something to help but don't know what. I guess I'm kind of rambling on here, but I know I can get away with it here. Thanks everyone for your help and concern.
Good health
Chuck
SCC Stage IV right tonsil T3N3M0. Dx 08/03. Clinical Trial:8 weeks Taxol, Carboplatin then Hydrea, 5FU, IMRT x's 48, SND, Iressa x 2yrs. Now 20 years out and thriving. Dealing with a Prostate cancer diagnosis now. Add a Bladder cancer diagnosis to all the fun.
It's always something
"Adversity doesn't build character, it reveals it."
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#4110 10-22-2004 04:58 PM | Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: May 2004 Posts: 137 | Chuck I know this is the hardest, isnt it. The wait. I am in the same boat as you are in. There is a spot but to small at this time. We will look into it again in DECEMBER. So what do you do until then. I say you LIVE. Hey it is going to be whatever it is rather we go crazy wondering. Crying buckets of tears. Bags under our eyes. This isn't going to change one thing. Oh I get down at times and I let my mind wonder off into that pity party that I just love to have. So far I have managed to pull myself out of the bucket. I pray that someone is there if I can't,,,,You darling wife, well she is terrified that the love of her life my be leaving her. I would love to tell her this, make all you memories that you can. Love each other now, don't spend time in another room crying. Spend your time on the couch holding hands watching a movie. Or take a walk, hand in hand. Talk about you fears together. You know what tho, this is how we should live everyday anyway. I have always done my best to. It gets to me tho, I am human, but I refuse to roll in it for too long. There will come the time when life is no more for me,,,cry then. You can spend time alone then. While I am here...Love me, talk to me, laugh with me,,,I am here....Your wife is going thru HELL just like we are...Hug her once for me...Tell her she is a wonderful woman. GOD LOVE HER and YOU...ALways Miss Vicki | | |
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