Its so asian to bring food when we travel to other countries!!heehehhe. Everytime i travel, i always bring so much food that i think my friends overseas would like. My luggage allowance is food! heheheh. If your partner can eat then its good to bring it but if he cant then you are just reminding hinm of what he is missing out when you bring the food.

The mucus is normal for people who have gone through radiation. Mine just got better as the days went by. If you type in mucus in the search section, you will find lots of suggestions on how to make it a bit more comfortable for your partner.

I have to say that you are doing a great job of supporting your partner. I found the best support is to have my partner understand my condition and of what i was going through.

This site is also great because it lets you know that there are other people going through the same as you and it provides lots of support.I'm sure your partner will appreciate it.

Minh

I didn't realize you could bring food to other countries. Maybe things have changed? When I was on a trip back from Mexico years ago, I had a mango in my purse (because at the time I was pregnant and had an acute mango craving) but the officials looked in my purse and took that mango away from me!

Oooh Anne-Marie
Mango definitely doesn't cross borders too well.

Neither does that smoked duck in the bag of that little 4'9" Asian grandma visiting her daughter, who is standing in front of you in the customs line at 6.30 in the morning. Minh, I travel a lot and as the planes all stopover in Bangkok/Hong Kong/Singapore I KNOW to choose a different line to that little old lady with the duck in her bag.

But on topic ... Nici, my Alex registered himself here, read a few things and then stopped. So now it is up to me to share stories with him. I used to start my conversations with "there is a guy on an oral cancer support forum, close to your age who went through the same crap as you who says ..." and Alex would listen. Now I just say "Such and such had that happen and he/she ..." and Alex pays attention because he knows I am talking about this forum good second hand advice is about to spew forth. I find it good for me as well because when Alex comes up with what he thinks is some weird and wonderful issue, I have already read about it, can immediately relate and make intelligent suggestions which does wonders for my status as a goddess.

Karen

Dear Minh, thanks a lot you really made me laugh about the Asian travel habits. Guess after living for 20 years in various parts of the Asian continent I can't help it anymore...And Karen can you imagine I even brought mangoes ( dried ones ) though I left the duck at home....
Got here on Wednesday night and was greeted by Avi standing on the terrace waving. Made my heart leap with joy. But very soon I was brought back to reality. His nights are disturbed by terrible headache attacks. I made him sit up which relieves the pain for a while. Even during the day it happens like when he is trying to clean his mouth too strenously. We had a meeting with the docs on Friday after which they decided to do his MRI.It is the first one after the treatment has finished. We got the call from the doctor later yesterday who informed him that 30 percent of the tumour still seems to be there. If cells are alive or not they will establish in further examinations. Unfortunately the next meeting will only be on wednesday next week when I will have returned already.
Is there anyone who also has experienced severe headaches and any suggestions on the primal information given on his MRI? I personnaly have my doubts as the whole area is still very badly infected which I belive comes up in the MRI also?
Nici

I had headaches when i was trying to hard to do something and I wasn't strong enough yet to do them. For me if i was trying to brush my hair or do something that involved lifting my arms up and looking upward, i would get a headache after a minute or so. Docs just told me to take it easy and try to do things for myself, but if what i was doing caused pain, to not do it.
I am not sure about infections showing up on MRI's or not, but if you don't believe they are accurate, or you want another opinion, get another opinion.
I sometimes wish I got another opinion before I went through my treatment, but I believe my doctors were some of the best in the state because of research my mom did, so I went with what they said to do.
Also, if he's not ready for this, you can look on here and kind of help him through with stories you see on here. I now talk with a woman who went through almost the same thing I did, only a few months after I did. For the most part, I talked with her sister on here, because she couldn't get on here, and I am glad I was able to help her through radiation and still.
Some people can jump on here and share their stories and read others, while others just can't handle it.

I wish you both the best and hopefully if you get a second opinion it doesn't turn out as bad as the first one.
I couldn't imagine having my boyfriend not by my side when I went through my treatment. You are one strong person for being able to do so!

I sure agree with Bethers about having your love side by side and giving you a boost when needed. Hell, mine ran like a Cobra was on her tail. LOL I did it all alone and still do. One thing I do get ried of is my friends and neighbors trying to FIX me UP . LOL If it happens it does and if not.... Oh well. Sure not looking tho.

Jim, your friends must care a LOT about you to be trying to "fix you up"! Especially if you put the word out that you are "not interested" - that in itself is a challenge to all the women who will be beating a path to your door to see if they could be the one to change your mind, and to your friends who will be renewing their efforts on your behalf. :-)