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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 580 | Thanks Helen!!
I'm here for you.
Mike
Dentist since 1995, 12 year Cancer Survivor, Father, Husband, Thankful to so many who supported me on my journey so far, and more than happy to comfort a friend.
Live, Laugh, Love & Learn.
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#12125 09-10-2007 07:52 PM | Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 "OCF across the pond" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | "OCF across the pond" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | Dont ever lose your passion and compassion.It makes you who you are.
love and best wishes Liz
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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#12126 09-10-2007 08:13 PM | Joined: May 2007 Posts: 632 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: May 2007 Posts: 632 | So now take a break on the Island Mike--good place for R&R and the ladies will keep you in perspective and in line!
Maybe Liz can open a new pub--'The Dentists and Friends' ??
Brenda
Brenda in UK--Diagnosis 30/5/07--undifferentiated carcinoma in right jawbone and muscles. Stage 4
6/7/07--new diagnosis primary is in lung. Finished 4cycles of palliative carboplatin/gemcitabine
therapy September 07
Now dying to live!
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#12127 09-11-2007 12:39 AM | Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 2,019 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Feb 2005 Posts: 2,019 | Mike,
It's easy to take things wrong when all the communication is over the internet. We can't see each other's face or body language and sometimes a tone of voice can be read into something when it's really not there so that soemthing that's genuinely intended as compassionate and constructive feedback is read as hostile or negative. It's also easier than real life to say something huffy or angry in return. I hang out to socialize in another online forum where that happens all the time it seems like (well, a lot more than here--and I've been hanging there for 8 years now).
As a social scientist, I'm actually amazed how *little* that sort of things happens here and I think it's because, in general, we are all survivors, or co-survivors of the same nasty disease and we tend to give each other the benefit of the doubt in terms of our perception of their intentions as well as our own responses.
So in short, I think what happened with you here could happen to anyone. I'm glad you've decided to stay and keep contributing.
Nelie
SCC(T2N0M0) part.glossectomy & neck dissect 2/9/05 & 2/25/05.33 IMRT(66 Gy),2 Cisplatin ended 06/03/05.Stage I breast cancer treated 2/05-11/05.Surgery to remove esophageal stricture 07/06, still having dilatations to keep esophagus open.Dysphagia. "When you're going through hell, keep going"
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#12128 09-11-2007 11:57 AM | Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 346 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | | Platinum Member (300+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 346 | Mike,
I too, lost my cool to a member on this board who emailed me and tried to help me several months ago. I was so frustrated( It is just my husband and myself and I have worn him thin, I think) I just could not contain myself. But I am truly sorry but I think too late. It is hard to deal with all of this and eveyone else and still put things in perspective. For me, it is so important that people such as yourself give so graciously of your intellect. That is what frustrates me so much is my ignorance of medicine and what is happening to me.
I am so glad you are back! You are a good listener and just keep that enthusiasm.
Debbie
Partial mandibulectomy and neck dissection 2/3/07. T2NOMO.
Had 14 hour operation which included reconstruction of jaw.
Reconstruction failed. Some radiation, no chemo.
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#12129 09-11-2007 12:05 PM | Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 580 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | OP "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 580 | Peace,
You have the best of my prayers and heartfelt thoughts.
You will get through this.
I'll be waiting to hear how you make out.
Love and hugs,
Mike
Dentist since 1995, 12 year Cancer Survivor, Father, Husband, Thankful to so many who supported me on my journey so far, and more than happy to comfort a friend.
Live, Laugh, Love & Learn.
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