Hi,
I am a 40 year old teacher. I got remarried when in 2007. I knew that my husband's x was diagnosed with cervical dyspepsia and HPV right around the time they split in 2004, but I didn't know what that meant until I did the internet research on HPV after I got diagnosed a few months ago.
My husband was/is in total denial about what HPV is. He would tell me that his x blamed him for her cancer diagnosis and laugh it off in anger. He would tell me how could he possibly give someone cancer. I heard the same kind of thing from my mother-in-law. Being ignorant about HPV, I totally bought it too. I mean it does sound ridiculous that you could "catch cancer". Well now I know I have HPV 16 and I am so scared. I want to know how I can remain intimate with my husband and still protect myself. Like I said, I am so scared.
When I started dating my husband in 2005, I asked my doctor about HPV and she said not to worry about it because so many adults have it.
Anyway, I want to know what you do to protect your spouse from getting infected and what you would do differently.
Thanks for your time.