Danny, Well put. Gratitude for being alive is a wonderful thing but it is too much intensity to live every moment like it might be your last. It can be paralyzing. Most people want to be normal again, able do everyday things, including getting angry, being a jerk, etc.

Another thing that did not help me was the idea that I'd appreciate life more after cancer. Well, my husband and I appreciated life before cancer. We had already dealt with some adversity and didn't need another lesson.

Another thing - It could be worse & others are in worse shape. That doesn't help me. It just makes me incredibly sad that others suffers even more! Lottie