Hi Laurie...first I have to tell you, you are so lucky to have found this site. It is just wonderful. I found it about 2 years after my diagnosis and it has changed my life. The beginning is craziness because you have so many thoughts going through your head. I'm sorry you and your husband have the added stress of him losing his father. Although this cancer is not a death sentence, just like Donna said. I know it's hard and we are here for you!! Once you have more information maybe you can a signature line so we know the status of you and Ace. Has he checked out the forum at all? He may find it helpful. Unfortunatley there are many young people here...myself included. I look forward in helping you any way I can.