I know it's hard not to be upset with the doctors, but they are only human (although I've meet some who seem to forget that.) My brother's doctors were just as shocked as we were that his cancer returned so quickly after surgery. The doctor who performed my brother's surgery sit in David's room and cried with us when we found out he would not make it. I knew this doctor had done everything in his power to save David. It was just out of his hands.
On the positive side, while I know we are never ready to loose those we love, your mother has had a long, wonderful life. Yes, less time than some, but so much more than many. My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm sorry about your father's illness - when it rains it pours. Enjoy every moment with everyone in your family. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow. We just have today.
Hugs,
Tonya