Hi Anne,
Sorry you are here but glad you have found us...I too was diagnosed with tongue cancer and the time between the diagnosis by my local physician, getting into a comprehensive cancer center, MDAnderson and getting a treatment plan up and running seemed like a lifetime. It was a scary and anxiety provoking time. But know there are many positive stories and many, many survivors, me being one.
I'm with Margaret on this one. Contact your hospital social worker and get some support. No one should have to deal with this alone. You will find many folks here who will gladly listen and share their experiences, knowledge and advice. Sending positive thoughts your way as well. Hang in there!