Liz- Try to remind her of the good news. Negative nodes are a big thing to celebrate. Many are not so lucky-even though I'm sure she doesn't feel lucky right now. It is so soon in her healing process. She needs to give herself a break. The calmer she can stay now, the better for her in the long run. And it will be awhile for recovery. Maybe it would help her to read survivor stories on this site as they can be inspirational.
Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.