Sue,
I am so sorry. I can only imagine your feelings of despair. We are all no strangers to the anxiety and the unknown. Check out the website on a wonderful survivor. Just key in Randy Pausch. He is a former professor at a university that is winning in the face of adversity his fight with cancer. His attitude is so uplifting.
I will pray for you.
Debbie

Partial mandibulectomy and neck dissection 2/3/07. T2NOMO.
Had 14 hour operation which included reconstruction of jaw.
Reconstruction failed. Some radiation, no chemo.