Hi Liz-My husband had the surgery with the neck dissection and the removal of half of his lower jaw. He looks amazingly well. Many of our friends and family members have said that they were bracing themselves for the worst when they saw him but were surprised at how great he looks. Even days after the surgery he looked great considering what he went through. Other than losing weight because of the jaw issue and treatment he still looks wonderful. He had both sides of his neck cut open to allow for the jaw to be replaced. The scars are barely visible.
I wish your friend all the courage and strength to make this tough decision. She is so lucky to have you.
Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.