thank you both very much appreciate you taking time to reply,

Aww Sue im so sorry you have both had to go through this its a very similar story to mine although so far mine hadnt spread.sending prayers your way for a full recovery.

i thought as much that it wasnt normal for a sore to keep appearing, still holding out hope it really is nothing but i know he needs to be seen (and soon) i will call my MIL in the am and work it out with her, we will find a way to pay ourselves.

My ent is an oral surgeon i read somewhere that not all ent's are created equal and you get better diagnosis from an oral surgeon because they see more or something along those lines, she is very thorough with me.

thank you again..Debz