Hi Sue,
Your husband is my age and had the very same surgery I had in 2003. I had a recurrance last August, on my tongue, and had to have more surgery. So far so good. I can only imagine how he's feeling, being so young and being in such a precarious position.........wife, young kids still at home, so much in life he still wants to do. I can also emphathize with your teenagers, we have three, although they are the youngest of our seven. Our girls were blindsided by my new cancer this year. Tell your husband to do some soul searching and if he puts his mind to it, he can learn how to live for the moment, enjoy the day in front of him rather than worry about tomorrow. I know it sounds trite but trust me, once I allowed myself that luxury my life turned around. I have spent the past few months building so many memories with my family, memories I might not have taken the time to do if I spent all my time worrying about dying.

Put your doctors backs to the wall and tell them you want definitive answers, or at least the closest truth they can give you. And never, ever give up hope. With all the new treatments we just never know how it will end up.
Take care,
Minnie