Folks, I have been around here for going on three years now, and I would like to say that some things change and some things stay the same. New voices mix with the "locals" and over time become one of the "locals" Sometimes there is a "family" argument and some things we will never agree on. (except the Packers and Vikings both suck). We have on hand here a real cross section of personalities. From that we can draw upon a huge experience base. The thing that seems to work best is to respond to posts by first trying to determine the needs of the poster. Then answering using words that are carefully chosen to answer, without going overboard.

We need not monkeypile on newcomers and stuff information into their ears.

People are often not looking for specific technical information and frankly we for the most part aren't qualified for more than hints from the technical standpoint. Often they just want some gentle assurance that they are not alone and that cancer is not always the end. I do not like to see our zeal turn into someting negitive. Before you hit the reply button, read your post to yourself twice. If you would not use those words with a close friend then don't post them. There is NO reason to be offensive or even walk on the edge of being offensive. Their will always be "those" topics that tempt to be uncivil. Do your best to fight the urge. (PEG tubes not included) wink

There are subjects that my oldest brother and I have decided we'll never talk about. He is forever wrong and to him so am I. We choose to remain brothers so we keep our mouths shut.

I happen to think that everyone can apply that logic from time to time.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.