Amy,
My 'story' went from bad to worse!
I also had all my own thoughts about 'what is normal life/what do I want', then had some hope with seriously radical surgery involved, which I wasn't sure I could face, then it all changed again to 'incurable/no point in surgery'.
Had decided wouldn't put myself thro chemo simply to 'prolong life/suffer in the meantime'--but one look at my partner's face and I decided to 'give it a go'--and hey, it's not been bad!
My nearest and dearest have all said they will go with whatever I want/decide to do.
And I can tell you that I am enjoying every moment of every day---it's all a bonus--and it feels 'normal'!
And yes, one of the decisions is that it will ultimately be Hospice for me--have already visited, and Cookey and Petey B on here reassured very much about that.
Talk to your mom, she will have her own thoughts, but be prepared for those thoughts to change, whatever the outcome.
You are a lovely thoughtful daughter to be thinking about all this and researching it.

Brenda