Dear Bonnie and everyone else - when I printed out comments from everyone, I placed them next to my son's bed (he was sleeping) and when he woke up he pointed to Wayne's comment about adult children taking advice and he smiled and gave me the "thumbs up" sign. So I continue to do that. Gail - your post to Bonnie (Worried Mom) helped me, too and am going to see what we can do about pain management while waiting for our "pain management team" to decide what to do. My son has an appointment with the doctor that treats his depression on Monday so hopefully, that will help, too. He just got the news yesterday from Social security disability that his claim was denied because he was not depressed enough nor disabled enough to qualify and that we could hire an attorney to pursue it. I'm trying really hard to summon up the "glass half full" side of my personality and see the good in the assessment that he's "not disabled nor depressed enough". I've always believed that there is always something we can do about whatever situation we are in - so I am going with that.