A psychologist years ago said somthing to me I will never forget. "Just because you are paranoid, it doesn't mean they aren't really out to get you." You are hardly neurotic, you are behaving like a perfectly normal person with "cancer survivoritis". And your emotions and concerns are both normal and appropriate for where you and your husband are ihn the process. I can only tell you that as the years pass from the original event that this becomes less acute, but in my 5 years, it hasn't gone away completely. Perhaps some of the longer term survivors can offer insights into when in their own lives this gets to not be part of your daily thought process.

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.