Cookey, YOU are not pathetic, the situation is. You are strong, supportive, sympathetic, and a warm and loving caregiver. Robin needs to help HIMSELF if he hopes to get better, and only HE can muster the fight he needs to defeat this. You have gone beyond all you can for him...now it is his turn. We sure are all familiar with the "not hungry/sick to my stomach" feelings you are having, and our hearts go out to you. Please let us know when you are in touch with Robin again, and how he is doing.
Hugs, JaneP

Husband: 3 SCC gum and cheek cancers 2002, 2005, 2006: surgery only. Scans clear after removal of small, well differentiated, non-invasive cancers. No radiation. 4th SCC lip diagnosed 4/13/07 - in situ, removed in biopsy. More lip removed 2/8/08 - dysplasia. 2 Biopsies 3/17/09 no cancer (lichenoids)