Mar, The only thing I can think of to say to you is that if you were strong enough to get through what you did in Viet Nam, then you will hopefully find the strength to get through this, no matter what the outcome. You have already seem that life has little to do with fairness - it has to do with love,courage,and fortitude. I hope you can call on all of those. And thank you for your efforts during the Viet Nam war- my 1st husband was a part of that one. Amy in athe Ozarks