My Dad, 65 today, will have a total glossectomy left neck dissection, free flap, trach and PEG on April 6th. This is a reoccurrance of SCC on his tongue and after the 1st surgery he had radiation and chemo. I understand life is never going to be the same for him again and now I am panicking. He lives alone, 1 and 1/2 hours from me and has always been completely self sufficient. For the past week he has been living with us and can't even get his pain meds. right! He went from being vice-president of a bank to a confused weary couch potato! Is he going to die???? Well, of course he is, and probably from this, but is he going to recover enough to enjoy life again? I am so scared...the thing I am afraid of the most is my Dad being depressed. This has happened so fast and he is such a vain man.......oh dear God, I am terrified! I feel like we are sitting on a time bomb. I really feel like the last day of my Dad's life is just 1 week away! Please help in anyway you can!