Morning, first let me tell you, Frank had his entire lower jaw, tongue, etc, etc, removed two years ago and rebuilt......the opinion was that he would be able to eat again, unfortunated, other cancer occured so he still has a feeding tube, and can`t talk, it`s changed our lives but it saved his, right now he`s finishing up rad for tumor in his sinus..........Depression and anxiety go hand in hand with what you are all going through. Is you father taking anything for depression or anxiety ? If not, I really would suggest it. I`m not even the one with cancer and I dropped to 88lbs, and also am in therapy.......oral cancer is devastating so use all the resourses you can. we think of ourselves by what we see in the mirror, and when that`s going to change I can`t only imagine how people feel........Hang in there, you`ve come to the right place..........Lots of Prayers Your Way, Dee