MUst be diferent in the UK- once I was signed into the Medical Privacy record as the person who was entitled to all of John's medical info, I had no trouble asking for charts, etc. While JOhn was in the hospital, I reviewed his overnight chart as soon as I got there in the am and if there was someting I didn't understand, I ask the Nurses to explain what was done and for what reason. This info was very useful when the Docs made rounds and I could ask them questions. When we came home, I learned the charting system the visiting nurses were using and entered everything the way they did when I was alone with him. That kept us all on the same page. Sammie, I know you are searching for answers, but my guess is the answers are in the charts and in the meds. Stay strong. Amy in the Ozarks