Tami,
I also just remembered my chemo doctor who never sugar coated anything. She was always up front with everything from how I would feel to the hair loss. When she told me to have the surgery and if it was her she would I asked her why and she said that she sees cancer all the time and knows what people go through.

The best thing is to fight it hard with all you got and since I already been through the hardest part and was still here I should go on with the surgery.

If the cancer comes back and I didn't have the surgery I wouldn't have done enough. Plus the survival statistics are not as good if you get it again. That is what they told me.

I hope you mom can get on this site and read read read. She is not the only one that is/has/will go through this.

She has to be strong for her and her family. I pray that she recovers well and from my understanding it is just her and her husband in Texas. Maybe it will be time for a move closer to family?

I will keep both of you in my prayers. Keep in touch
Love
Terry

P.S. I also remember everyone telling me that it will get better. I would be feeling so bad and would not believe them but I am a lot better than I was. Keep the faith in your doctors and if you feel like you need a second opinion you have every right. That is what saved me was the second opinion when they first found the lump in my neck!