Barry and Gail,
Everyone has given great advice and the only thing i can say is to agree with Nellie about setting up a web page at caringbridge.org to keep people updated. It's free and VERY easy to set up even for someone like me who is not very good with computers. The site has been good for me for journaling purposes and I don't have to keep repeating my story and updates to everyone. I also use the site to indicate things that I need such as movies, someone to cook food for me ( i even put specific food lists), prayers etc. Asking for help is not easy but you have to remember that everyone REALLY wants to do something to help and being able to put my needs out on the website was easier than calling folks and asking for their help. When I'm feeling down I put that out there also and it's amazing how people come out of the woodwork to support and encourage me through those times. My prayers are with you both.
Francine