Michelle
First I wanted you to know that Erbitux is NOT an experimental drug any more. It has been approved by the powers that be for oral cancer. Your insurance should cover it because of this. The doctors told us that they believed that Erbitux could cut the possibility of re-occurance almost in half. With this type of cancer that is a wonderful, wonderful percentage!
Now as for babies...Our doc specifically asked us if we were planning to have any more (we are 32 and 33 yrs old) and we had already decided we were done, but I still asked the question.. Would he still be able to pro-create. The doc said most likely no, but that they could do some fancy paperwork and try to get the insurance to approve sperm donation and storage. So talk to your doctor and see what they say! I am sorry that you are having to go through this with your husband, the one thing that is really on your side is that you've been there. It will help you when he is having rough days, when and if the depression hits, when he is feeling good-you will know that he has to still take it easy and not over-do.
Biggest thing here is to take a deep breath, and take everything moment by moment, but look for the blessings-I kept a journal of all the blessings that happened so that on MY bad days I could look back and see all the things that made me happy.
My heart and Love is with you!!
Jennie