Thank-you everyone for your kind words and helpful advice. Cathy - my father is on 5 cans of liquid nutrition through a feeding tube and on morphine (he hasn't reached the maximum amount yet in order to be transferred over to the fentanyl patch and he claims he is not in pain).

My dad actually started a fever yesterday. I'm not his primary caregiver but thank goodness his wife telephoned the oncology nurse and I have just driven him back to the hospital on the nurse's advice. He is currently underoing some bloodwork and X-ray. I'm assuming a chest X-ray to check for a possible pneumonia. It has been difficult to try and be an advocate while trying not to interfere with his wife but I think she is starting to realize that we all love my dad very much and want the best for him. I'm walking over to the clinic now (I work in a different area of the hospital) to keep them company and to try and keep on top of things.

Thanks again. I'm not sure where to say this, so I'll just say it now... this is an Excellent site! I'm just sorry I didn't find it sooner!

- Cindy