Dear V, while I can't address the chemo part of your question, I can encourage you to follow Gail's advice about asking questions-lots of questions-even questions that you think might be dumb -in order to get your minds wrapped around the things that may crop up during treatment. This is not to scare you, but to eliminate fears. The more you know ahead, the less fearful you are if a side effect happens and the more prepared you are to deal with it, realizing that many folks have experienced that one and got through it. This forum has done more to educated me as a caregiver that any of the Medical people we have dealt with over the last 14 months. So keep reading and keep asking. And Best Luck to you both. Amy