Hey Eileen,
I know it must be hard to see your friend suffer, but what a good friend you are! Dan used Morphine after his initial surgery and he was pretty out of it which was good in that case. During his chemo/rad treatments he had a Duragesic Patch going from 25 mg. to 150 mg., and used Oxycotin. It worked well on the pain, helped him to sleep and did not make him crazy. He had about two days of "crawling" skin and inability to sleep after going off the drugs, but he really did it cold turkey and should have went down more gradually.
God bless sweetie!
Debbie

Debbie - Caregiver for husband, Dan, diagnosed with tongue cancer 7/03. Partial gloss., mod. neck dissections, graft. Recurrence neck tumor 12/03. Radical left neck dissection 12/24/03-unable to get all the tumor. 8 weeks chemo/rad beginning 1/12/04.