JB--I am sorry that you have to take this "trip," but at least you have made a beginning. It probably won't be fun, but if you choose professionals that you trust, you will be ok. I am glad that you have someone to go with you to the app't. with the oncologist. You need to make a list of your questions, but that person needs to be in charge of being sure that they all get asked and to make notes of the answers. YOU will not remember everything that they tell you. Neither will she, but she can write, and you need to be free to talk with the doctor. I didn't do it this way, and now I am sorry, bec. I don't recall everything that they said. Good Luck. Keep us posted. We're pulling for you.