Slow down my friend. Your questions are the usual rush of thoughts that cross anyone's mind when the word cancer is mentioned.

Let's start with what you know....
you have a lump and the doctor has GUESSED cancer.

You need more tests and a clear head. Now is the time to enlist your wife and together you can make sure you get the facts.

Get a notebook. Take it with you tomorrow to the docs. Have your wife go with you if she can and write everything down no matter how trivial.

When my husband first noticed his lumps he waited 3 weeks to tell me about it. I got him to the doctor and the first words out of her mouth were a series of explitives that ended with the word cancer.

He freaked immediately and came home and hit the internet looking for any kind of cancer that would cause lumps in the neck. Needless to say it was a pointless search, especially since he never came close to his actual diagnosis.

Soooooo

Take a deep breath, slow down, and THINK! Thinking is your best friend at the moment. Go to your appointment tomorrow with a positive mind, even if the diagnosis is cancer.

When you get all of the details then come back here and let us know and we can help you through this journey.

There is an old saying... don't borrow trouble. This is particularly important when it comes to this disease. Get the facts about what is wrong and then we can help you plan your next step.

I know this is overwhelming and especially at your age. But panic and worry will only cause you to miss the important things that you need to hear.

I know... easy for me to say. But we have been there and done that and the most important role I have played in this whole event has been to keep my husband grounded with what is not what might happen.

So, step back for a moment and collect yourself and your wife should do the same. Decide to face each obstacle as it confronts you and know that you have found a place where you can get real answers.

Use us, we are here!

Best of luck and let us know what the doctors say.

Cindy