Hello my newest friends!

Well we heard the news of mother's PET scan yesterday & still I'm not so sure.

The spot that was detected in the CT scan (the one in the mid chest area) turned out not to be cancer, but there was a spot that the onocologist said that showed up 'warm' he was concerned about(upper chest area right above left breast) -I thought the whole purpose of this scan was to show exactly where the cancer was, anyway- cancer did show up in the left side of neck in the lymph node & of course under the tongue.
They plan to do the surgery (to remove the lymph node & the tumor) on Dec. 9th and said that if it looked as if the he was going to take more of the tongue than he hoped to he would stop mid-way through the procedure & let us know about other options. Gosh, wouldn't that be awful to put mom through a partial surgery & it not do any good.

Does this sound normal?
Doesn't the tumor grow the longer we wait, It seems the doc is scheduling his surgeries around his holiday plans. He said he didn't feel as if this was an emergency to get this removed.
Also, we were told, sometimes the patient can even go home the day after surgery if they have no problem swallowing -this leads to my next question how many of you had this problem of swallowing?

Mom is in a lot of pain right now (only being able to eat soup, & not drinking anything cold or hot) but she still plans to have her big Thanksgiving dinner as usual.

Doc still thinks this surgery will be all she needs to be rid of the cancer -maybe this is true. I suppose I should trust his decisions & trust that the Lord will not let her go through anything she can't handle, as my mom says, all of this is just very scary. I just want to know we're doing the right thing.

I'm so glad I have you guys for support, all of you have been great & each reply makes me feel like I'm getting a big hug. Thanks to you all & each & everyone of you are in my prayers -Tina