first of all, take a deep breath and calm down.

i'm a survivor who had over half of my tongue removed. before my surgery, i was in alot of pain and required pain meds to get through the day. it's a common thing.

oral cancer is slow to spread. i had to endure a whole month between my diagnosis and the first day of treatment. don't panic yourself that the cancer is running rampant through your mum. it's not going to do that, so have faith.

i will think of you and your mum and add your family to my prayers.

please remember that times look tough now, but you both will get through this. things will come out fine in the end, it is just a rough road to go down. keep your head held high and keep hope in your hearts.