Cal i always think twice before posting replies to new members,obviously because of my signature line. The reason people like me and Anne Marie stay on this site is that we hope that the experience we gained from being closely involved with oral cancer,and being primary carers for our husbands, will help other people going through the same or similar scenarios.I always try to take the view that every one who comes to this site will be luckier than Robin was,and to date that is mostly the case so dont try to anticipate what might or might not happen,just deal with what IS happening day to day .The future is something none of us can see,wether we are healthy or sick ,as i have said many times before,i could get in my car today,and never come home again,so dont waste your energy with maybe, just as i cant waste my life with what if's.Concentrate on fighting the disease,you will need to be totally focused on that.

good luck with everything

love liz