Valerie
I was lucky with my tongue before surgery they said they might have to cut the whole tongue out and make a new one, but they found the tumor to be small and no root system so they just removed the tumor which was way in the back. Had full neck disection do to it spreading to lymp system on right side. I started out at 220lbs did not use the peg and almost starve to death, spent 3 weeks in hospital being hydrated and fed till I could eat. Eating was the most diffucult had to try alot of different things to see what I could eat. I think as far as being angry one is also scared of dying while going threw this, not to make excuse for my behavior but I was mad at the world not just my wife but she took the brute end of my angry. The sad thing about our type of cancer there is not much of it around or close to us whare one can talk with another oral cancer patient. I did find another lady not to far away that had the same thing I did and we had the same surgon, we would get together and talk none stop about what was going on in our life and how it has affected us, that did help me alot. Maybe show your husband this board room may help. It does get better.