Rob, welcome to the forum. This is a great place to get answers, find questions to ask the docs and sometimes just vent a bit. Let your wife know we are here too. It took me awhile to want to talk with others when I was dx'd with MS but I finally found a forum and it helped me a great deal because I knew that the people I was talking with really had first hand experience with what I was going through. So when I was dx.d with cancer I quickly found a forum with cancer survivors. This has helped me stay positive. Hopefully your wife will come visit as well. You are in my prayers. I'm almost halfway through my treatments and hanging in there. I don't have the same primary sight as your wife so my surgeries are different but treatment is probably close to the same. She can do this. It is very helpful to have someone at the dr.s appointment to help take notes and remember things. When I go I here everything they say and even take some notes, but I always forget to ask the questions that I really wanted to ask. My wife always has to remind me. You can get through this. My family and I will pray for you. Lee