Pat, take a deep breath and hang on, you are in for a ride, that is for sure, but a ride that will be bumpy along the way, and a ride that will be smooth sailing at times. The important thing to remember is...take one day at a time! Do only what you feel like doing(forget what you should be doing) this time, has to be about YOU!!! Any concerns or questions, no matter how dumb they might sound to you, feel free to ask, there is always someone here to help you, always. You will meet some of the nicest people on here, learn to lean on them when you need to, that is why we all stay around even after it is all over, because we remember the ones that helped us get through this, and we want to try and give back what we were so fortunate to receive, a gift in return Good Luck and your in our prayers...remember we are here!