Ask before you bring out the tape recorder (you can frame it along the lines of "My dad and I just want to make sure that when we get home, we'll know exactly what was discussed today" or something like that). Be advised that some doctors may not agree, out of concern that, in a lawsuit, their words could literally come back to haunt them.

The notepad is fine.


Leslie

April 2006: Husband dx by dentist with leukoplakia on tongue. Oral surgeon's biopsy 4/28/06: Moderate dysplasia; pathology report warned of possible "skip effect." ENT's excisional biopsy (got it all) 5/31/06: SCC in situ/small bit superficially invasive. Early detection saves lives.