I'm also one of 3 very close sisters and it's been a sanity saver for me to have them help me research and review information for my husband's cancer. We live in 3 different states but we all call, email and vent to each other several times per week, as does my son, brother and assorted neices and nephews. There is no question that the collective "we" happens very quickly with cancer and our trials and triumphs are theirs as well. As lousey as it is to be dealing with cancer, how great that you are doing it as a family. Good for you...and yes Penny if you are reading this take your sister's advice and eat, eat, eat but also drink 3 quarts of water every day. It helps with the side effects. You will learn how to do that thru the feeding tube to supplement your swallowing.
Best of luck with the treatments and that "We made it" day will come and you can have a family party - that's what we did before and after treatment and it was awesome.
Regards JoAnne