Welcome. It's a shame we have to meet this way, but you have entered a great community of information and caring and support. What chemotherapy drug(s) is your husband getting? There is a lot of information on side effects in the Treatment section here. My husband is on day 15 of 33 radiation treatments and will have a few more chemo treatments of Erbitux and one more of Cisplatin. It is great that yours has a feeding tube. Mine thought he could tough it out but is getting one on Friday. The radiation effects have kicked in. He says his throat hurts more now than it did with the tonsillectomy and that was hell, so I can only imagine what this is.
You do have a full plate with your kids and your husband. It will be a life-enhancing experience for the kids--especially as they help you care for their dad.
Visit this site often; read and ask questions. We are all here for each other.

Joyce

CG to Tom dx SCC 5/06; right neck lymph nodes removed, dx right tonsil and tonsillectomy 6/06; rad and chemo started 7/06; treatment COMPLETED 9/06 33x rad; Erbitux (8x); Cisplatin (2);