Hi there, I have a father in law who survived stage IV oral cancer 14 years ago and he is ok today. So, there is good news.

Definitely get your mom to a nephrologist.

I lost my mom to lung cancer in 2016 after a three year battle. She refused chemo and made the choice that was right for her. I say a little serenity prayed when I need to, and it helps me stay focused. Focused on today and what I CAN do. In hindsight I am filled with gratitude that she gave me time to realize how important each moment is before they were lost. Those moments still keep close to me in times of sadness and I am really ok.

I suggest reaching out to the American Cancer Society to see if they can arrange rides for your mom. Last time I checked they offer a lot of services.

And finally, tell everyone you know about what you are going through. Your neighbor, your employer, friends, extended family, her friends. Facebook and craigslist and nextdoor if you are comfortable. Get in a group chat and let them know what is going on and hopefully they can pitch in. You never know.